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I was diagnosed with a DH D as a child.
And it's been an interesting journey. I

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like to explain it. Like you're getting
tumbled in a wave, you get tumbled in

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and you get like kind of like spun
around backwards and you kind of just

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get like stuck somewhere and
understanding it. Some has helped me to

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get back to it a little bit better, but
I still have a lot of work to do. So

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that's the thing is that, that's where
I'm hoping that our next steps are

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going to be that I can address mine
because again, we're very clever. We've

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figured out ways to calm our nervous
system, which is what we're doing and

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we can kind of like, oh, but you know
what? It's because I like to have a

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clean house or, oh, it's because I like
to be in shape, right? We can say these

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things. But is it actually hurting us
for me, my nature to obsess about my

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problems and try to solve that? I white
knuckled that steering wheel my whole

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life. I've tried to make the car go
where I want to go and taken years of

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my life in the process now, I'd like to
stop doing that.

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I mean, I think that's really wise. I
think the one thing is to see what can

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you control that we can make small
shifts just within ourselves.

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Alec is a man born in the 19 fifties
and asking for help is a difficult

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thing. I also think it's his generation,
which is that you're supposed to be

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much more shut down. You just go, you
work, you do these things, you gotta be

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man, you gotta be strong, you gotta be
all these different kinds of things.

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But I, I think that the asking for help
is, is not something that was modeled

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for him.

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And um hopefully he can, he can realize
that it's ok.